Hello guys! I wanted to talk about something that’s really hit me lately. People’s opinions of us and why they affect us in so many ways. If you’re someone like myself who admits to letting others get in your head, then you might like this one.
Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth. – Marcus Aurelius
Okay so like I said, I’ll definitely put my hands up and say yes, i’m the type of person who lets other peoples views affect my mood. Especially when it’s someone I care about or even worse, someone I look up to who pretty much completely disagrees with me about something – so I start doubting my own thoughts/ideas. What makes it worse is that having someone who judges the way we think can seriously put a downer on our mood and that can mean the whole day ends up being crap. It means whatever it was that we wanted to do now has this negative cloud above it and it probably means we decide against it. Why do we do it to ourselves?! Here are five reasons why we should stop caring about what other people think of us.
Someone’s opinion is just that..opinion –
Have you ever watched the news or heard someones opinion on an important matter and just thought… What on earth are you talking about?! Yeah, me too. If people in the world can disagree on such big matters what makes you think that everyone’s view on your life will be correct.
Will that opinion matter in a year? –
A lot of decisions we make are going to impact us straight away. When you want to wear that bold skirt or change your makeup look for a day you’re not going to look back in a year and go wow I can’t believe I did that. I mean, you might do if you decide it was a bit crazy of you, but I’m sure you’d be happy you tried it instead of regretting it. The same goes for other people and what they think of you. Their view is probably not something you’re going to remember or even care about a year later to the situation. So why let it bother you now?
If you do what others expect, you will always do what they expect –
I’ve found that if I let peoples views get me down enough that I change my plans or something that it ends up being something I do time and time again. My advice would be to stop! Honestly if you always let people get in your head, you will never learn to trust your own choices and ignore negative people.
Everyone’s journeys are different –
It’s okay that your parents don’t approve of your job or your friends don’t like your other friends and so on. It’s okay that people don’t agree with what you’re up to or how you’re doing something. At the end of the day, everyone is going to choose different paths and live completely different lives. You’ll soon accept that someone might disapprove of your decision and you’ll overrule them and move on because it’s your journey, after all.
We all prefer someone who is true to themselves –
On a more positive note, how much happier do people seem when they’re in control of what they’re up to and people aren’t butting in with rude opinions? I always think that people who ignore crap from others always seem a lot more peaceful. Personally, when i’m ignoring people who are giving me crap about a choice i’m making I feel a lot better. Also, people in general tend to respect others when they stand up for themselves and stick to their gut. Even if something ends up being a mistake, whether it’s not going to uni or getting into a relationship nobody thinks will last – you should never let someone else be the reason you’ve changed your mind/not tried something you think is best for you.
There are so many people in our lives who can impact our decisions. Friends, family, other bloggers, partners, idols – the list goes on. I’m not saying that you should completely ignore everyone you care about and do everything on your own. But, I am saying that if people are constantly filling you with negative thoughts about your own decisions and you feel something is indeed right for you, then don’t be scared to put their opinions aside. On the other hand, if you’re just someone who gets upset easily when people judge what you do, then I hope you can learn to not give a crap about what they might say/think. Life is way better when we don’t give a monkeys.